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First of all happy birthday today to my best friend from college who should visit the country more often, Nolan!

@@ @@ Today I would like to lift some lines from the post and comments of my new best friend, because he agreed with my second post about how much crap the remade Clash of the Titans movie is.

In {http://www.thoughts.com/Nightbane/blog/truth-536415/} he talks about the truth, and how people skirt around it.

You want to avoid somebody, but you can’t because that would mean leaving someone else in the sinking ship having to deal with the person who is apparently universally intolerable. So you all suffer in the person’s presence.

Would it not be better to tell that person they stink and get them to improve their relationship with others?

It would be fine (no, actually it wouldn’t, but we’re just talking relative terms here) if the person was clueless about how people have wanted to avoid contact, and is okay with the unbeknownst false reason given.

But what if the person is sensitive enough to know that they are being lied to? The denial makes it worse.

“I think people lie in this way more to avoid dealing with their own awkward feelings at saying something truthful but confronting, than they do to avoid offending the person.”

If this is true then it is a selfish reason and makes for a worse world than a better one, for everyone concerned.

Keeping feelings cooped up inside, as any backyard psychologist will tell you, is bad, and is cause for arrested development.

And one day when you do let out your feelings, it will be awkward, and you may end up feeling regret about it, even though it may be the best thing to ever happen to you and to the others present.

This is just as much as getting angry at oneself and at others for overly displaying emotion, again just like the character of Alex K. in Grey’s Anatomy snapping at Stevens because he cried in front of her.

There is nothing wrong with showing vulnerability. In fact, if allowed, it should bring people closer for the shared experience.

Does this also mean, in the spirit of the golden rule that they also do not want to hear the truth about them from others?

That is just denial in so many levels, with oneself and with what others may see in them as well.

“Many who lie believe they are telling the truth…but through blinded eyes they never realize that the sword of truth turns in all directions.”

This is just like the previous paragraph about denial. This may come from years of practice, that they start to believe already for themselves what they tell others, or even what they plan to tell others who ask.

And the buzzword for today seems to be denial. This is when at least one other person already sees something another insists is not true, and builds excuses around it.